| “Nothing can stop the man with the right mental attitude from achieving his goal, nothing on earth can help the man with the wrong mental attitude” |
| Thomas Jefferson |
If you don’t give your home a spring clean every now and again, it ends up with overflowing cupboards, a garage that your car doesn’t fit in and piles of junk everywhere.
Why is this a problem?
- It makes things difficult to find when you need them.
- It makes your home look smaller.
- These unwanted items serve no useful purpose whatsoever.
Even when it’s time to get rid of an item that you’ve not used for years, it can be difficult. We may have grown attached to it and grown used to it. The same applies to ideas and attitudes that we hold in our mind.
Consider politics. Some people look at the situation that is present in the world today, think about what is the best way to improve it for the good of their family and the community, and then decide which political party to vote for. Is that how most people vote? Absolutely not! They vote according to an outdated view of class, or because their parents always voted for a political party, or because their parents didn’t vote for a political party. There is often no logic or reasoning – just prejudice. These ideas form part of our comfort zone, and that’s where we remain – we are a Labour/ Liberal/Tory supporter - whether we feel they do us (or the country) any good or not.
The same can apply to football teams.
Think of your mind as a sponge. All your life you have gone along absorbing events, ideas and emotions. Now your sponge is full. You can’t absorb anything new until you wring it out. These old habits are clogging up our brains and stopping us from doing anything new and useful.
There are 2 steps to de-clutter your mind:
Listen to what you say to yourself. Pay attention to your self talk. Do you praise yourself or criticise? Change your self talk to:
- Be positive, encouraging and kind to yourself
- Keep focused on what you have decided to do (the goals you have set)
- Put things into perspective
- Celebrate yourself when things go well
When you have an automatic response to a situation, ask yourself why?

For example, if it is suggested that you move to a larger house and you automatically say no, ask yourself - why do I always have that reaction? Perhaps you formed that view 10 years ago when you didn’t have the money or the need to move home, but now you need more space, and in the right location, you’d have the money.
Ask yourself, why do you have this view? It is not enough to say ‘just because’.
Before you ask other people’s views, sit down and work it out for yourself.
Make informed decisions – don’t just guess.
Learn to re-think your position and remain open minded on a range of ideas. Being closed minded is dangerous and leads to missed opportunities.
“Success is a state of mind. If you want success, start thinking of yourself as a success.”
Dr Joyce Brothers |
Listen to Alastair’s ‘Lesson’s in Life’ slot each month on BBC Radio Derby with Sally Pepper Saturdays between 12pm till 2pm on 104.5 FM or online at www.bbc.co.uk/england/radioderby |